Healing affirmations honestly sounded like total hippie nonsense to me until i was literally curled up on my kitchen floor in Ohio last winter crying into a bag of flamin hot cheetos because i finally admitted i’d been letting people treat me like a doormat since like middle school. anyway that was the night i started muttering this stuff to myself and somehow it actually started working??
How healing affirmations accidentally saved my sanity (and maybe my soul)
so picture this: it’s february, it’s gray, my heat bill was criminal, and i just got ghosted by a guy who told me i was “too much” (lmao the irony). i was spiraling so hard i opened tiktok at 2am and some girl with perfect eyebrows was like “speak it into existence bestie” and normally i would’ve kept scrolling but something in me snapped. i grabbed a sharpie and an old receipt and wrote “i am not too much, i am exactly enough” and stuck it on my bathroom mirror. then i said it out loud and immediately started ugly crying because it felt like a lie but also… kinda true?? idk man the brain is weird. https://psychcentral.com/lib/positive-daily-affirmations
The healing affirmations i actually use when im having a day
these are the ones currently living on sticky notes all over my apartment (yes i have a problem)
- “i release everyone who made me feel like i had to shrink” (this one still stings)
- “my boundaries are sexy and non-negotiable”
- “i already survived the worst parts, the rest is just bonus”
- “i don’t have to earn the right to take up space”
- “it’s safe to be powerful” (this one makes me tear up every single time ugh)
That one time healing affirmations stopped me from texting my ex at 1am
true story: last month he drunk texted “miss u” and my dumbass thumbs were already typing when i looked up and saw the sticky note that says “i deserve someone who never has to drunk text to remember i exist” and i just… stopped. put the phone down. ate ice cream straight from the tub instead. 10/10 would recommend. reclaiming your power tastes like ben & jerry’s half-baked at 1:17am.
Ok but sometimes healing affirmations feel like total bullshit
real talk some days i stand in front of the mirror screaming “I AM POWERFUL” and then immediately spill coffee all over myself and cry because the universe clearly has jokes. progress isn’t linear ok?? some mornings the affirmations feel like i’m lying to myself and that’s fine. i just keep one in my pocket like a tiny middle finger to the part of me that wants to stay small.
my very chaotic rules for doing this without wanting to yeet yourself into the sun
- say them out loud even when you sound like a lunatic
- make them specific to YOUR trauma (generic pinterest ones don’t hit the same)
- bonus points if you flip off the mirror while saying it
- if you don’t cry at least once you’re probably doing it wrong
- pair with caffeine or wine depending on the vibe
anyway if you’re reading this and feeling like a hollowed-out pumpkin version of yourself just try it once. say something that feels impossible out loud. healing affirmations won’t fix your life overnight but they gave me back the tiniest sliver of control and honestly right now that’s everything. https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/positive-affirmations
What’s one thing you need to hear right now? tell me in the comments and i’ll say it out loud for you from my extremely mediocre ohio apartment. pinky swear.
(Or don’t. you’re allowed to keep it to yourself. boundaries remember?) 💕
